How does an African American woman stay true to her faith while remaining single and childless in spite of the expectations of society as a whole?

How does an African American woman stay true to her faith while remaining single and childless in spite of the expectations of society as a whole?
For single mothers of any race, how would you help a client reconcile her desires to be a mother within the context of the Christian faith?
It is widely perceived that men who father children out of wedlock are not given the same attention in churches as women who bear children out of wedlock. Do you believe this perception is clear? Why or why not? If it is correct, what do you think explains the difference?